I want your opinion!!!
December 5, 2008
OK, Monica, if you read this I WANT YOUR OPINION!!!
G went on a field trip today to the Monterey Aquarium. I had to get up early, made her lunch, helped with clothes, lent her my phone & spent all day wondering how things went.
G comes home & for about 5 glorious minutes she is happy to see me. She talks talks talks about what her day was like. When we got home I said, “Don’t go into the garage. I got a present today for you for Christmas that I am really excited about! If you go in & look at it I’ll return it”.
Well, that was the wrong thing to say. She immediately got pissed. She demanded to know what it was. She said, “It’s not fair. You know I will go into the garage.” I said, ok, I’ll move it a little later. But, at that point she was pissed. She is now laying on the floor making up a song “My mom is the worst mom. She is ugly. I wish Mrs. Liddy was my mom. She can return the present, I don’t care. My mom is the worst mom, I wish she wasn’t my mom…” It’s been going on for about 5 minutes with no end in sight.
OK, I shouldn’t have said the line about returning it, I should have known that would make her mad. But, geeze, I was trying to be nice and get her excited that I found a present I thought she would really like. I tried to get her to talk some more about her day but she said, “It was the worst day ever.”
So, is this normal kid behavior, normal bipolar behavior, or am I crazy? I fee like she has to get out all her frustrations from the day & if I leave her alone she will come around. Am I expected to wait this out & then be nice when it’s all over? It’s hard to switch gears & be nice once it’s all done. It sucks all the energy out of me & makes me want to go to bed & just pull the covers up over my head.
Update: It took about 10 minutes but G said, “Mom, I’m so sorry I hurt your feelings. You were trying to tease me to make me happy. I’m sorry.” Wow, I totally melt. Lesson learned: G is getting better about struggling with her feelings. Leave her alone & she will come around. Give her a chore after she’s been rude, but believe that it will improve.
